In philosophy, the theory of love aims to determine when romantic love is deserved and what good reasons for love might be. There are two primary schools in the theory of love.
According to the “property view,” people should romantically love others if and only if they sincerely appreciate someone’s intrinsic qualities, such as their kindness, intelligence, or appearance. Crucially, this appreciation must be of someone’s qualities currently, rather than any historic qualities they might have had. In the property view, love does not require anything else, like a commitment or a relationship.
In contrast, according to the “relationship view,” romantic love derives from shared experiences, history, and commitment. Thus, people should only romantically love others when they have some kind of relationship with them. This also means it is possible to love someone even if you do not appreciate their current qualities, as long as the love is caused by your connection with them.